By Carrie Dorr
The title of this book really says it all! Due to the daily pace and operational requirements of life, most of us find ourselves rushing from one task to the next leaving little time for enlightenment. Author Haemin Sunim is a renowned Buddhist meditation teacher born in Korea and educated in the U.S. The basis of his book is “The world moves fast, but that doesn’t mean we have to.”
Sunim offers guidance on wellbeing in 8 areas: Rest, Mindfulness, Passion, Relationships, Love, Life, The Future and Spirituality. It’s a quick read packed with digestible tidbits. Below are some which I found most impactful. Happy Reading!
1. If you let your mind linger on the question without trying too hard to find the solution, an answer will emerge on its’ own.
2. Paper wrapped around incense smells of incense and string binding fish smells of fish. Whether we like it or not, we naturally become influenced by our surroundings. Ask yourself- who do I want to emulate? Is that person physically or mentally nearby?
3. According to some psychologists, happiness can be assessed with 2 single questions: First, do you find meaning in your work? Second, do you have a good relationship with those around you?
4. Compare relationships to sitting by a fireplace. If we sit too close for too long, we become hot and irritated. If we sit too far away, we cannot feel the warmth. Similarly, no matter how well we get along with someone, if we stick too close without building some personal space, we soon feel trapped and burned out; it’s easy to take a relationship for granted and feel resentful about not having privacy and independence. On the other hand, if we put in too little effort to stay in touch, we can’t feel the warmth of love. Striking balance is key.
5. The more you try to change people, the more strained your relationship will become. People do not change easily, unless they suffer tremendous hardship or have a life-altering experience.
6. Just as there is no effect without a cause, success doesn’t come about by luck alone, without years of preparation and hard work.
7. Take ownership of your life, you will have more purpose.
8. Where you live shapes you. Do you live in a place conducive to the pursuit of your dreams?
9. Before your children are all grown, travel as frequently as you can as a family. Although we see our family every day, we don’t really get to be with one another. A change in environment can do wonders and bring families closer.