By Carrie Dorr
Will my body go back to “normal” after having a baby is a question I hear often. Scroll and scan around and you are sure to see “How to Get your Body Back After Baby” lurking around on blogs, sites and publications.
I myself have had 3 kids (2 events as my husband likes to say, our girls are twins) and I’d love for us to change the way we talk about this. The language “get my body back” creates unrealistic expectations and puts undue pressure on women worldwide. This is also how I feel about the term “work-life balance” however that needs to be addressed in another blog piece!
I’m embarrassed to admit, early on in Pure Barre days, I created a promo package called “Baby Bounce Back”. I’m saying ugh as I type this. To my defense, my intentions were good and I was in my 20s, sans kids. Now, after having kids, I’m well aware that our bodies don’t bounce back like some sort of a superball returning after being chucked against a cement wall. Everyone’s experience is different but I’m happy to share what mine has been to perhaps shed some realism on the topic as well as begin to chip away at the expectations that leave many women feeling crappy about themselves after championing the magnificent feat of bringing human life to the world.
Your hips widen.
Things shift a bit.
Your skin stretches and loses elasticity…belly and boobs especially.
You lose some connection with your core.
I realize that reading this may sound a bit dreary and for those of you considering starting a family, you may be feeling deflated. But...here’s the thing, and this is the important stuff…
You can still be fit, heathy and feel good.
You can still be strong. In fact you can increase your strength.
You can still have healthy lungs. In fact, you can increase your endurance and stamina.
You can still be flexible. In fact, you can increase your flexibility.
You will will become more efficient.
You will become wiser.
You will become more patient, then you ever thought possible.
You will want to be a better version of yourself.
You will want to work at being present and savoring the good stuff.
You will experience love that is truly indescribable.
And…if motherhood doesn’t take care of the above physically undesirable things, not to worry… aging will. Just sayin’!